Therapy for
People-Pleasing

This is one of the most common fears we hear.

Caring deeply about others is not a flaw - it’s a strength. Therapy isn’t about taking that away. It’s about helping you care for others without consistently abandoning yourself in the process. Healthy boundaries don’t make you selfish; they create clarity, mutual respect, and more honest connection. Most clients find that when resentment decreases and communication improves, their relationships actually feel stronger and more secure.

If you’ve learned that conflict leads to rejection, anger, or withdrawal, it makes sense that boundaries feel scary. In therapy, we don’t push you into confrontation. Instead, we help you build the emotional tools to tolerate discomfort, regulate anxiety, and communicate clearly. Over time, you’ll learn that disagreement doesn’t automatically mean disconnection - and that you can stay grounded even when others are disappointed.

Not at all. People-pleasing patterns are learned (often early in life) and anything learned can be reshaped. Change doesn’t mean becoming harsh or unkind. It means becoming more integrated. Many clients discover that as they reconnect with their voice and needs, they feel calmer, clearer, and more confident - without losing their warmth.

Many clients begin noticing small but meaningful shifts within the first few sessions - such as recognizing patterns sooner or pausing before automatically saying yes. Deeper relational changes take time, especially if these patterns have been present for years. Therapy is collaborative and paced thoughtfully, so progress feels steady rather than overwhelming.

This is incredibly common. When you’ve spent years prioritizing others, it can feel unfamiliar (even uncomfortable) to tune into yourself. Therapy becomes a space to gently rediscover your preferences, values, and voice without pressure. You don’t need to arrive with clarity. That’s something we build together.